The
Washington Post is getting a lot of buzz from its story "
Transgender at five," about a little girl who was diagnosed with gender dysphoria, a form of gender identity disorder. For now, her parents are letting her live as a boy. In the future, they have some deeply disturbing options, such as puberty blockers and hormone treatments that, among other things, would render their child sterile.
It seems to me, from my reading of the article, that the medical community has put more time and effort into encouraging families to embrace and encourage the symptoms of this disorder than into trying to find genuine treatments for it. Is there any other disorder on earth that we treat this way? The very word
disorder suggests that something has gone wrong, that something is, literally, out of order. Wouldn't you think that the patients would be better off if their doctors were genuinely interested in finding ways to restore that order?
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And I choose that comparison advisedly. There are Deaf people (capital used intentionally) who are so pro-Deaf that they think anyone getting a cochlear implant is a traitor, and that doctors who recommend/perform the implants are nearly genocidal. While being deaf is nothing to be ashamed of, there is a real loss from normal, and it's self-delusional to pretend otherwise.
But going back to the "transgender" issue, what then do you do about it? The article suggests that up to 80% of such kids outgrow their feelings, which is certainly a strong argument against taking any permanent actions that would cement the alternative gender. (And on that topic, it's worth noting that some sex-change doctors have gotten out of the business, conculding that it's not actually helping those who undergo it based on standard measures of psychological well-being, even if the patients claim to feel better afterwards.)
The article doesn't offer ideas on how to help a child sort things out. As a father of strong-willed preschoolers, I doubt that a strong-arm tactic (take away his dolls and her trucks) will help; if anything, it'll probably make things worse. I frankly swallow my dislike on some things: my boys like to play "tea party" and clomp around in Mommy's shoes. (Daddy's shoes, not so much, perhaps because they're heavier.) But learning appropriate behavior isn't just a matter of fitting into gender norms; it's a process that takes years, and there is legitimate overlap in appropriate behavior between the sexes. Trying to teach hyper-macho or hyper-feminine behavior isn't what I'd want for any child, no matter how comfortable they are with their sex.
Just this evening, as ABC News kicked off the show by expressing outrage over what they considered to be a light sentence in the Tyler Clementi suicide case, they used the word "bullying" over and over. So now, any boorish or insensitive act is bullying.
How does gender dysphoria get diagnosed at that age anyway?