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BreakPoint Subscribers - If you have not been receiving your daily BreakPoint emails, please confirm your subscription at the Colson Center home page, directly below the Two Minute Warning section. We apologize for the inconvenience!For some time now, I’ve been telling you that the Christian worldview is the only worldview that provides us with a rational way to live in the world. It’s the only worldview that we can live with. We simply can’t live with the logical outcomes of other worldviews like secular naturalism, new age-ism, or Freudianism. And thanks to the daily news, I’m never short of material to prove it. A group of mostly female students is suing Yale University for allowing a “sexually hostile environment” to exist on campus. The women, of course, have a point. After all, when frat boys are allowed to parade around the old campus chanting “No Means Yes,” or to hold up signs that read “We Love Yale Sluts,” I guess you could say that’s a sexually hostile environment. But may I ask a question? What did you expect? The disgusting, intimidating behavior at Yale -- and on many college campuses -- is a classic example of the post-modern impasse. For nearly 50 years, academia, the feminist movement, and post-modern society have embraced sexual freedom as the ultimate good. And the feminists led the way. They wanted to control their bodies; to be free from any consequences of sexual license. Well, guess what. If you promote sexual license -- especially on campuses -- what do you get? That’s right. Sexual license. You approve and encourage immoral behavior, and then you’re surprised when young men don’t behave like gentlemen? Are you kidding me? And as for Yale...What else would you expect at a university when every year its hosts a campus-wide event called “Sex week,” where students get to attend seminars on sexual practices, presentations by sex workers, and plenty of porn films? As an aside: Parents, before you send your daughter off to college, do some homework about life on campus. Why send your daughter to a school that promotes such promiscuity? But back to my point: The women of Yale have discovered that they can’t live with the post-modern, sexually licentious Freudian worldview. It doesn’t work. It leads to moral chaos. Where might you think such students would find a safer, more congenial environment? Perhaps at an institution that still clings to the Judeo-Christian worldview and the ethical principles that shaped Western Civilization. Does the Christian view of sex promote intimidation, harassment, and brutish behavior like we’re seeing at Yale, or does it promote moral and ethical virtue? Well, it ought to be obvious. All worldviews are not equal. But that’s a controversial thing to say in this relativistic age. But examine any particular worldview, follow it to its logical conclusions, and you’ll discover whether we can live with the consequences. Today on my “Two-Minute Warning,” which you can watch at ColsonCenter.org, I talk about our new six-part video series, “Doing the Right Thing.” It is a fabulous series, and it makes a compelling argument for rejecting the relativistic, “anything goes” mentality that has led to the kind of unethical behavior we’re seeing on college campuses -- and in corporate board rooms and city halls. “Doing the Right Thing” is impassioned plea -- and a roadmap -- for restoring a culture of responsibility. At Yale and everywhere else. Please, come to ColsonCenter.org, watch my “Two Minute Warning,” and learn more about “Doing the Right Thing.” Further Reading and Information
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Thank you for your excellent column. When I heard in the news about the growing number of sexual assaults on college campuses I soon began to wonder if the tolerance of unchecked sexual behavior was a factor. Your column helped put words to my suspicions.
Naturally, the politically incorrect nature of your column has resulted in some accusing you of sexism. The irony is that before you penned your column growing numbers of FEMINISTS have concluded that women's pursuit of sexual license has result in a VERY anti-woman culture in America.
Melinda Tankard Reist said it best in this quote:
“Raunch culture has taken us back. It’s an absolute tragedy. [Women's] liberation has now come to be seen as the ability to wrap your legs around a pole, or flash your breasts in public, or send a sexual image of yourself to your boyfriend … Girls think that empowerment lies in their ability to be hot and sexy.”
http://dailycaller.com/2010/08/14/the-wests-over-sexualized-culture-is-feminisms-byproduct/
Reist's comments are just the tip of the iceberg of honest feminists willing to admit that their pursuit of "sexual freedom" has led to women being more objectified and demeaned than they were in the 1950s.
So, continue to speak the truth since it will ultimately be proven right.
The feminist 'sexually licentious' attitude you're degrading *does* teach it's okay to say 'no', that girls don't *need* to have sex and any boy who insists they do isn't worth their time. If it were just about having sex at a young age, we wouldn't need feminists. Why blame them exclusively for sexual immorality - especially when they have given many girls the courage to remain abstinent without fear of how their boyfriends would react?
Feminism does not exclusively encourage promiscuity any more than it encourages celibacy. What it encourages is women choosing to have sex for themselves, rather than letting their boyfriends choose for them.
Also, on the bit where you described the young men as 'not behaving like gentlemen'? Whoa. Back up. Saying 'No Means Yes' is not just un-gentlemanly. It is supporting rape. It is saying rape is okay. RAPE. Not mere out-of-wedlock sexual immorality, but outright forcing of oneself on another person who has explicitly said 'no'. And your comment essentially implies supporting rape is merely rude and improper. I sincerely hope that's not what you meant to imply. Nobody, regardless of how promiscuous they are, deserves to be raped, and to blame rape culture on women who want the option to say 'yes' or 'no' instead of being pressured or forced into sex is disgusting.
If womens lib thought that to be 'free' or equal we needed to behave as some low class men behave they got it very wrong. (This is not to suggest that all the work that was done by womens lib was misguided. Not at all, some of it was very necessary.) But as a woman, I believe they did get the sex thing wrong and have thus mislead a generation or two.Of course the advice on how to fulfill ourselves sexually just happened to coincide with the availability of the pill, an unhappy coincident indeed. This encouraged some very shallow thinking as people raced into embracing the 'freedom' the pill promised.A promise that seems to be proving hollow in terms of sexual satisfaction, (not to mention spread of STDs, high rates of abortion etc). Sadly, it is obvious that many men of other cultures look askance at Western women, as little more than common prostitutes. Given the way so many girls have not been taught a modicum of elegance in their dress, nor their behavior; this is hardly surprising.
Men are wired differently to women, and if women choose to parade in skirts up to the bottom, with breasts all displayed and skanky behavior to boot it is hardly surprising men get the wrong idea and feel fine about their sad and pathetic message boards as displayed at Yale.
Mixed messages are confusing and a little modesty and elegance of both dress and behavior might result in better outcomes.... Drunken, lewd behavior is unattractive and dangerous in either sex; but let us not load the blame onto men alone.It would be naive of us to do so.
If on the other hand we are created in God's image, then don't we need to look at what God says are the correct ways to use the gift of sex? The saddest thing in my opinion, is when so many men and women never appear to experience the almost divine aspect of their sexual lives. Sex is reduced to mere function, with none of the joyful union with the partner you know almost as well as yourself. Perhaps this is why some sad people resort to so much gross behavior, often dependent on porn,drugs and Yale sex weeks to try to get sexual satisfaction.It's tragic really.
In terms of morality, cultures fluctuate from really awful- temple prostitution, promiscuity, rape and the objectification and degrading of women- to really prissy- putting women on an impossible pedestal in a Virgin Mary/ you-have-to-be-perfect-in-all-areas sort of way. England was sordid prior to Wilberforce seeking "the reformation of morals.” We have to go beyond the “reformation of morals.” We have to teach our SONS and our daughters to "do the right thing" and utilize every ounce of personal self-control and every legal means to protect and heal every woman and every man- body, mind, and spirit. How can we impart courage in our sons so that they protect ALL women and take a stand against boors that assault women’s (or other men’s) bodies, their sense of safety, and their self-image? Chuck, utilize those Centurions to lead the way. You have lead the way to reducing prison rape. Likewise, those Yale women and all those on other campuses should know that we Christians- their peers and their elders- will fight for them too. The sexualized culture, porn, and the imbalance of men and women all are forces that contribute to the degrading, sexualized environment on campus, but we should not shrink from the fight.
So feminists have "led the way" in the current trend of sexual immorality. How, by saying that women have the right to do the same things men have been doing for centuries? Men have never been told they are 'sluts' for sleeping around, or treated like used merchandise for not saving their virginity for marriage. Instead, their sexual immorality has been traditionally excused and portrayed as an enjoyable pastime. Is it so surprising that women have felt entitled to some of the same 'fun'?
Mr. Colson needs a reality check. Men who do the sort of things those Yale boys were doing don't do it because women are being are being free about their sexuality. (This is the same commenter that said that men are more likely to beat women who co-habit with them because 'men don't respect live-in girlfriends.') They do it because they're misogynists. They hate women because, deep down inside, they're afraid of the vulnerability that men and women alike have when it comes to members of the opposite sex.
Mr. Colson, if you want to decry the sorry state of sexual morality in this country, it's certainly a worthwhile topic. But don't make the feminists your scapegoats. Put the blame where it belongs: on both sexes. And start with the gender that was the first to promote and practice sexual immorality.
In addition, I have a high school-age daughter whom I hope will marry either a young Christian man who does not have memories of hookups and porn or a convert that takes the time to deal with those same memories and dedicate himself to faithfulness to his new spouse. The reality is that the imbalance of Christian guys and gals means that some of our daughters will face marrying Christian guys, regardless of their sexual history, marry a non-Christian, or choose to remain single.